Unfortunately, we only have ONE Baby Merlin’s Magic Sleepsuit.
Adapting to this change was difficult at first. I had actually gotten used to our system: my wife going to bed early, my staying up late to feed, and then her relieving me around 1 AM.
I felt some guilt the first night as my wife bore the brunt of their furtive sleep, since she was on the side nearest the crib.
The best thing about our relationship is that we don’t hold on to moments like that as currency. The next day, rather than use her sacrifice against me, my carried on as usual with what needed to be done.
Which, in turn, made me step up my game even more in order to honor her duty.
Honoring her, we got thru the next day, the next night, every night since, & guess what? We’ll get thru tonight too.
The funny thing about change is, we adapt or die. I chose the former.
A week later, it hardly feels like change at all, just the new normal.
Now we just need to figure out what to do about the dog…
What were some of the toughest adjustments you had to make to your routine as your kids developed?
It was our first day leaving the hospital with the twins after 12 days in the NICU. We pulled up to the house and began to unload, each of us picking up one of the car seats & myself grabbing our then-diaper bag by Happ.
That was when I knew we were in trouble.
We had purchased this particular diaper bag at my wife’s urging back in November. She loved it for style and comfort, and still does to this day.
When I am “being the man” and carrying up the diaper bag as well as a baby, it just isn’t functional. The short strap, perfect for my wife, slides right off my shoulder, down to my wrist where it swings and slaps the car seat while I walk.
We stayed in over the next few weeks.
Fortunately I met The Diaper Dude at a Big City Mom’s Event in March, & I stopped to ask him about his unique brand for dads.
My Dad Days changed forever.
After we connected and he heard about my twins & diaper bag ordeal, The DD (we’re on a nickname basis now) graciously offered me a bag complimentary.
The next week when we took our first road trip, I saw the difference simply walking down to the car.
Maybe it’s a guy thing, maybe it’s a me thing – I cannot find ANYTHING in a woman’s bag!
I remember my mother’s diaper bags for my younger siblings always seeming crowded and stuffed. My wife can blindly distinguish chapstick from lipstick in her purse; I can’t find either, even using my iPhone flashlight.
This bag, for some reason, is oriented to my head and, as simple as it is, everything has its own spot.
The initial hook is of course the Checklist on the inside flap.
Beyond that, could it be that different from a traditional diaper bag?
Insulated pockets on the side hold formula at temp (we use one side for our quick access tube items – sunscreen, sanitizer, lip balm, butt paste).
Three external flaps are perfect for diapers & travel wipes.
Inside, there is a large stuffable compartment; there are also three sub-pockets that are great for keeping accessories readily accessible (phone charger anyone?).
It’s 2017, so of course there is also an additional flap for your iPad. This helps the Diaper Dude Messenger convert to a convenient messenger bag for events even without baby!
If there is one gripe I have, it is that the zippers can come undone on their own sometimes. It has happened to me with main compartment zipper AND the smaller zippers around the various flaps.
On the other hand, when I had my first Public Restroom Changing Table experience, being able to easily rip the bag open with my one free hand came in “handy.”
Since getting this bag, I’ve noticed other dads struggling with their traditional (or even fashionable) diaper bags. Every single time, I male-model my Diaper Dude Messenger & they all echo my sentiments about what a simple notion it is to design a functional bag for dads.
Finally, it must be noted that Diaper Dude is under the True Dude Movement, and 5% of all sales go to support Futures Without Violence, a charitable organization focused on coaching boys into men.
Their Coaching Boys Into Men (CBIM) program provides high school athletic coaches with the resources they need to promote respectful behavior among their players and help prevent relationship abuse, harassment, and sexual assault.
That sounds like #beingagrownman to me, and the perfect bonus for dads who need a functional bag anyway.
Thankfully, with time, patience, and the steady hand of a head of surgery, there is a solution to this problem.
The question is, what parent has a readily available supply of time, patience, and steadiness?
However, between the two of us (and the overwhelming amount of work my wife does for the boys), the task of “surgery” has fallen to me.
Fathers: nothing you have done or encountered can properly prepare you for the task of cutting your infant children’s fingernails.
For starters, there is a unique property to infant fingernail clippers – they are SHARP! Unlike the dull clunkers made for adults, each blade of infant clippers is fine enough to turn fingernails into the phyllo dough used to make baklava.
Contrast that with the infant’s fingernails – fine, paper-like white lines that blend in perfectly with their skin, despite being able to slice you like an envelope edge.
Add in the three cups of coffee required to even be cognizant at 8:15 AM after a night of bottle-fussiness, and you’ll WISH you’d spent 8 years in school preparing for this moment.
Now imagine having twins.
I can’t complain too much right now, because thankfully THIS morning Archer was content to lay in his boppy while I worked slowly and steadily around Logan’s fingernails.
Not too much later, Logan dozed off to sleep just in time for me to get to work on Archer.
Perhaps I am too cautious; there is nothing that ruins my day more than a hangnail. Maybe babies don’t yet have the sensitivity in their fingertips for that to be a concern (who wants to fact-check and let me know?).
Still, until they are old enough to wield the Scissors of Doom themselves, this routine will be done with patience, meticulousness, and lots of internal stress for dad.
At least it is one less thing for my wife to have to do.
Do you have a task you always perform around the house or for the kids? Let us know with a comment here or a reply on Twitter!