Today at work, I received the following text:
Now you can imagine the number that text did on my heart strings! My baby boys, cognizant, noticing each other, acting like joyful old friends reunited at only 16 weeks old.
As one of four boys, I can only hope my sons have the close bond I will always share with my brothers.
As twins, society (& us parents) can also carry an expectation that they WILL be close, best friends, identical.
The main thing I struggle with even as a new parent is finding the balance between wanting the best for my children, & wanting what my children want for themselves.
Will my boys be baseball fans? If I try to make them baseball fans, will that turn them off? What if they are… Cardinals fans?!?
And every class we took before our kids were born reiterated the point: treat each twin on their own terms, never assume they are close or even like each other!
So when I see a situation I have zero control over, such as their first reactions to noticing each other, the joy when it goes “my way” is immeasureable.
Now I just need to know how to handle it when they finally react the way I DON’T want in a situation.