5 1/2 months old: Is it normal to feel like you spent “all night” just putting them down for bed, one getting startled just when the other is finally asleep, starting all over again, trying every binky, song, rocker, stuffed animal, multiple burps, finally letting the one who wants to be a Roly-Poly do so on your bed with five different pillows until he gets snuggled just right – 3/4 on his tummy with his legs splayed different directions (supervised the whole time of course), only to sneak out of the room & realize it was really only an hour and half and you suddenly feel victorious?
Cover Photo of a much more peaceful nap time this weekend for good measure.
Who has a similar story of a night they’ll never forget?
You may have noticed I haven’t posted in awhile. Or it never crossed your mind, since bloggers slip in and out of the blogosphere constantly, losing steam, getting derailed, or simply running out of things to say.
Well that’s not me.
I’ve got a backlog of products I want to share from our past month, baby and parent tools which have helped ease (somewhat) the transition from 4th Trimester into full infanthood.
Right around the time of this transition, our live-in help (my wonderful sister) decided to take a three-week vacation. While vacation timing is never great, this probably worked best considering my wife returns to work soon and the chance at a vacation then will entirely evaporate.
So for three weeks starting the last week of May, we were entirely on our own at home with two twins we were suddenly going to attempt to sleep train.
A few days into this period, fellow dad-blogger Doyin Richards reached out and asked me if I wanted to take part in a shoot for Today: Parents. Like any responsible, caring father, my immediate reaction was SIGN ME UP!
Our shoot was timed so the video could release the week of Father’s Day, and our shoot went incredibly well with some other amazing dads.
The premise of the video is a great one, and one that many other dads have had negative experiences around. Simply put, don’t call a Dad “the babysitter” for taking care of his own kids!
And my line made sense – I was the only dad of twins on set, so naturally I would say “Thanks, but I can handle them all by myself” while both boys are on the ground needing a diaper change.
I’m a dad. I got this. Rise to the challenge!
Heck, I actually have done that with them both before, in an alley behind a restaurant so my wife could enjoy her food when we had a “Double-Double” so to speak.
And while it works wonderfully in context of the video, as an individual I still feel a responsibility to my wife to clarify.
While I can handle them for a time by myself, both of them, including feeding time… OH MY GOD I NEED YOU AND CAN’T DO THIS ON MY OWN!
I think it is backwards that we praise dads for being around and present for their kids. I know I was blessed to have a dad who raised me, not “babysat” me. I’m proud to have been a part of this video and even reading the Facebook comments, many others agree or wish that they didn’t feel this way when a father in their life engages briefly.
Still, after three weeks without help, and even the two weeks since, I have no clue how I would survive if my wife weren’t the amazing Wonder Mom she has been to our lovely and ornery boys!
Are you a dad who’s “got this”? What is your best advice? Leave a comment below or tweet us @beingagrownman
Unfortunately, we only have ONE Baby Merlin’s Magic Sleepsuit.
Adapting to this change was difficult at first. I had actually gotten used to our system: my wife going to bed early, my staying up late to feed, and then her relieving me around 1 AM.
I felt some guilt the first night as my wife bore the brunt of their furtive sleep, since she was on the side nearest the crib.
The best thing about our relationship is that we don’t hold on to moments like that as currency. The next day, rather than use her sacrifice against me, my carried on as usual with what needed to be done.
Which, in turn, made me step up my game even more in order to honor her duty.
Honoring her, we got thru the next day, the next night, every night since, & guess what? We’ll get thru tonight too.
The funny thing about change is, we adapt or die. I chose the former.
A week later, it hardly feels like change at all, just the new normal.
Now we just need to figure out what to do about the dog…
What were some of the toughest adjustments you had to make to your routine as your kids developed?