…Is Discovering the Secret to Baby-Sleep

…& I’m slightly scared to share it.

Ever have one of those nights where it seems the more tired your baby gets, the more it screams, wriggles, and fights sleep?

Do you regularly feel like you’ve reached the end of your rope and Cry It Out might suddenly be a viable solution?

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I made the Mistake of Asking REDDIT for Parenting Advice Once…

Are you (like us) a parent of TWINS & constantly running at the slightest sound, to at least make sure only ONE wakes up, and whisked the child out of the crib/room/house so as to keep the other twin sound asleep?

I may have discovered the secret to those moments that require a special soothing beyond the power of song or formula.

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Of course, as a parent, I also know the millisecond my secret hits the internet, it will suddenly cease to work on my own children, no matter how many parents I help in the process.

 

Do I lift the box off of the Schrodinger’s Cat of baby sleep?

Alright, no more secrets.

Over the past two weeks, when we hit those moments where natural sleep seems as far off as the next full solar eclipse, I’ve used a unique strategy: I give my child a foot massage.

This has had the most unnervingly positive effect, almost at once disarming the screams, binky-throwing, and rolling around.

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Don’t Be Tellin’ Me About Foot Massages

I had the thought to try it after meeting a baby masseuse at a recent Baby Show.  She suggested full body massages after feeding, before feeding, when baby wakes up, when baby sneezes… essentially I needed to dedicate ten hours of my day PER BABY to massage.

I even asked her about it.  “How the hell do you stick to this regimen if you have twins?!”  I was shocked she didn’t have an answer beyond, “oh, well, my clients all have only one baby.”

That said, a few weeks back, I had a big presentation to give at work on Monday, and Sunday night at 11:15 PM Logan would NOT fall asleep, despite all our soothing efforts, babbling brook sound effects, & our Magic Sleepsuit (which I do attest works wonders, just not a fool-proof solution).

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On a whim, my mind floated back to that Baby Show & the masseuse, and my hands reached out for my son’s foot.

Within 45 seconds his eyes were closed and his breathing was as soft and regular as his poops have been since we started solid foods.

This trick has continued to work, though I have reserved it only for the worst of times in order to preserve it’s mystical power.

 

Do you have any tricks or tips for sleep time when your baby is especially resistant?

Are you a parent of multiples who has good advice on putting TWO to bed at once?

Leave a helpful comment below.

How Do I Give A Foot Massage?

…is “Optimizing” Our Must-Dos

…Like buying diapers.

Last night I was able to attend a networking event.  I met a dad who, the minute he found out I was a dad, immediately said, “You use Amazon Prime, don’t you?”

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I laughed and said, “of course!  Who has time to make diaper runs after a ten-hour work day?”

As funny as it was having that conversation last night, more amusing was the timing of coming home today to my sister telling me “We’re going to be out of formula tomorrow.”

Then my wife came home and announced “we’re all out of eggs, tuna, and dried parsley.”

Because dried parsley is super high on dad’s priority list at the moment.

All of these needs, combined with our need to cook dinner, do a two-hour bedtime routine, and possibly see each other and catch up about work (my wife went back this week, she’s amazing).

All I could think to myself was

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…way am I running to the store in LA traffic after working all day!”

Thankfully, living in a major metropolitan city means I can jump on Amazon Prime and get free Next Day Delivery on our Gerber Good Start Gentle without breaking a sweat (or honking my car horn).

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Stop blogging & get us clean diapers!

And yes, this blog may seem crafted to highlight those advantages for me, having made all of 61 cents from sharing this news.  I hope you dads out there see this as an actual integral part of our lives – how to optimize our time & our money best for our families.

Tonight, in an effort to save and optimize our time even more, I spent five minutes exploring Amazon‘s Subscription features.  Subscribing to bunny litter & food, diapers, formula, and a ream of paper every month saved me an additional 20% on those purchases.

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Yeah, this makes Amazon Prime totally worth $100 a year

Remember, this is on top of the gas, parking (it is Los Angeles after all), and most importantly time spent dashing after these things when we notice we are running low.

So take advantage of my 30-Day Amazon Prime Free Trial if you need, or just sign right up for yourself.  Whether I get your click or not, you’ll be grateful for how it makes you look to your wife and kids:

Best Item on Amazon

…is Putting the Kids Down For Bed

5 1/2 months old: Is it normal to feel like you spent “all night” just putting them down for bed, one getting startled just when the other is finally asleep, starting all over again, trying every binky, song, rocker, stuffed animal, multiple burps, finally letting the one who wants to be a Roly-Poly do so on your bed with five different pillows until he gets snuggled just right – 3/4 on his tummy with his legs splayed different directions (supervised the whole time of course), only to sneak out of the room & realize it was really only an hour and half and you suddenly feel victorious?

Cover Photo of a much more peaceful nap time this weekend for good measure.

Who has a similar story of a night they’ll never forget?

…is Admitting You Need Each Other

You may have noticed I haven’t posted in awhile.  Or it never crossed your mind, since bloggers slip in and out of the blogosphere constantly, losing steam, getting derailed, or simply running out of things to say.

Well that’s not me.

I’ve got a backlog of products I want to share from our past month, baby and parent tools which have helped ease (somewhat) the transition from 4th Trimester into full infanthood.

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Studies Show Babies (& Dads) Need 12 Hours of Sleep a Day

Right around the time of this transition, our live-in help (my wonderful sister) decided to take a three-week vacation.  While vacation timing is never great, this probably worked best considering my wife returns to work soon and the chance at a vacation then will entirely evaporate.

So for three weeks starting the last week of May, we were entirely on our own at home with two twins we were suddenly going to attempt to sleep train.

A few days into this period, fellow dad-blogger Doyin Richards reached out and asked me if I wanted to take part in a shoot for Today: Parents.  Like any responsible, caring father, my immediate reaction was SIGN ME UP!

Our shoot was timed so the video could release the week of Father’s Day, and our shoot went incredibly well with some other amazing dads.

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The premise of the video is a great one, and one that many other dads have had negative experiences around.  Simply put, don’t call a Dad “the babysitter” for taking care of his own kids!

And my line made sense – I was the only dad of twins on set, so naturally I would say “Thanks, but I can handle them all by myself” while both boys are on the ground needing a diaper change.

I’m a dad.  I got this.  Rise to the challenge!

Heck, I actually have done that with them both before, in an alley behind a restaurant so my wife could enjoy her food when we had a “Double-Double” so to speak.

And while it works wonderfully in context of the video, as an individual I still feel a responsibility to my wife to clarify.

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Yeah, I got this!  …for one, three-hour stretch, while they nap…

While I can handle them for a time by myself, both of them, including feeding time… OH MY GOD I NEED YOU AND CAN’T DO THIS ON MY OWN!

I think it is backwards that we praise dads for being around and present for their kids.  I know I was blessed to have a dad who raised me, not “babysat” me.  I’m proud to have been a part of this video and even reading the Facebook comments, many others agree or wish that they didn’t feel this way when a father in their life engages briefly.

Still, after three weeks without help, and even the two weeks since, I have no clue how I would survive if my wife weren’t the amazing Wonder Mom she has been to our lovely and ornery boys!

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Are you a dad who’s “got this”?  What is your best advice?  Leave a comment below or tweet us @beingagrownman