…Is Discovering the Secret to Baby-Sleep

…& I’m slightly scared to share it.

Ever have one of those nights where it seems the more tired your baby gets, the more it screams, wriggles, and fights sleep?

Do you regularly feel like you’ve reached the end of your rope and Cry It Out might suddenly be a viable solution?

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I made the Mistake of Asking REDDIT for Parenting Advice Once…

Are you (like us) a parent of TWINS & constantly running at the slightest sound, to at least make sure only ONE wakes up, and whisked the child out of the crib/room/house so as to keep the other twin sound asleep?

I may have discovered the secret to those moments that require a special soothing beyond the power of song or formula.

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Of course, as a parent, I also know the millisecond my secret hits the internet, it will suddenly cease to work on my own children, no matter how many parents I help in the process.

 

Do I lift the box off of the Schrodinger’s Cat of baby sleep?

Alright, no more secrets.

Over the past two weeks, when we hit those moments where natural sleep seems as far off as the next full solar eclipse, I’ve used a unique strategy: I give my child a foot massage.

This has had the most unnervingly positive effect, almost at once disarming the screams, binky-throwing, and rolling around.

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Don’t Be Tellin’ Me About Foot Massages

I had the thought to try it after meeting a baby masseuse at a recent Baby Show.  She suggested full body massages after feeding, before feeding, when baby wakes up, when baby sneezes… essentially I needed to dedicate ten hours of my day PER BABY to massage.

I even asked her about it.  “How the hell do you stick to this regimen if you have twins?!”  I was shocked she didn’t have an answer beyond, “oh, well, my clients all have only one baby.”

That said, a few weeks back, I had a big presentation to give at work on Monday, and Sunday night at 11:15 PM Logan would NOT fall asleep, despite all our soothing efforts, babbling brook sound effects, & our Magic Sleepsuit (which I do attest works wonders, just not a fool-proof solution).

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That’s a Blog for Another Day

On a whim, my mind floated back to that Baby Show & the masseuse, and my hands reached out for my son’s foot.

Within 45 seconds his eyes were closed and his breathing was as soft and regular as his poops have been since we started solid foods.

This trick has continued to work, though I have reserved it only for the worst of times in order to preserve it’s mystical power.

 

Do you have any tricks or tips for sleep time when your baby is especially resistant?

Are you a parent of multiples who has good advice on putting TWO to bed at once?

Leave a helpful comment below.

How Do I Give A Foot Massage?

…is Tolerating Change

…in the Bedroom!

No, this blog post is not a fortune cookie.


Nor is it the tell-all my 17 readers have been hoping for about what happens behind closed doors.

Rather, it is the story of why I haven’t blogged for a week.

Last Friday we decided it was finally time to move the children out of the living room and into our bedroom.

Pros: we can both go to bed at the same time.

Cons: we both get woken up at the same time.  Every time.

Some nights have been better than others; Night Three went off without a hitch!

Then there was last night.

Don’t get cocky…

 

Every two hours was one of them (never both at once) enlisting us with a new set of demands, which required a range of interpretation on our part because all we heard was “WrRaRAAArAAA!!!”


The transition was multiplied by the fact that suddenly, “because they are rolling”, we are no longer allowed* to swaddle them. Wife’s rules.

*I don’t purport to be a safety expert, so please don’t take my opinions as evidence of what you should or should not do with your child.

Thankfully, we are allowed the Baby Merlin’s Magic Sleepsuit, arguably the greatest named child’s outfit ever.

 

Instant Sleep – It’s Magic!

Unfortunately, we only have ONE Baby Merlin’s Magic Sleepsuit.

#TwinProblems

Adapting to this change was difficult at first.  I had actually gotten used to our system: my wife going to bed early, my staying up late to feed, and then her relieving me around 1 AM.

I felt some guilt the first night as my wife bore the brunt of their furtive sleep, since she was on the side nearest the crib.

The best thing about our relationship is that we don’t hold on to moments like that as currency.  The next day, rather than use her sacrifice against me, my carried on as usual with what needed to be done.

We are Partners, Not Competitors

Which, in turn, made me step up my game even more in order to honor her duty.

Honoring her, we got thru the next day, the next night, every night since, & guess what?  We’ll get thru tonight too.

The funny thing about change is, we adapt or die.  I chose the former.

A week later, it hardly feels like change at all, just the new normal.

Now we just need to figure out what to do about the dog…

This couch is too big for just me!

What were some of the toughest adjustments you had to make to your routine as your kids developed?